Friendzoned

Is it really possible to make new friends of the opposite sex without having any sexual intentions? It’s probably one of the reasons why I put guys in the friendzone. If there are no signs of a future or that initial spark then I automatically friendzone them. It is easier for me to put them into that category and then be myself. But in fact, it should be that very reason to have a friendship with someone I want a relationship with. I always hear that you should fall in love with your bestfriend. In my head, I’m like “my bestfriend? I can’t be with my bestfriend! That’s just weird!” They say the best relationships start with friendship. I never really believed that, but I am beginning to believe it. In a lot of the books I have read so far, talk about if you cannot be friends with someone, why would you start a relationship with them. Now I realized that these books are absolutely true. I have never been friends first with any of my relationships, so maybe that is why they never last. I never got to know them on a deeper level, but it all makes sense now. Friendship should always be the foundation of a great relationship. Like why wouldn’t I consider a guy friend as a boyfriend? They are obviously my friend for a reason. I like them as a person, enjoy their company and know them more on a deeper level than just a superficial relationship. Right? Right! Why did it take me so long to realize this? I never listen to anyone, but then a book tells me that this is what I need to do and then BAM! I am on it haha. It’s going to take a while to transition to this kind of thinking. All of my life, once I put you in the friendzone then that’s that. You not getting out of it. 100% serious. I have never dated a friend. Even just thinking about kissing one of my guy friends right now makes me feel super weird like its unnatural. This may take a while to process. Till then.. friendships here we go.

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