I thank You for this day. I praise You and worship You, Lord. I love You, Father God. You have blessed my life in more ways than one. I just lift You up, the Lord of lords and the King of kings. You amaze me, Your ways, Your love, the Lover of my Soul and my everything. I thank You for doing a work in me, in my heart, in my soul. Every day I am new, every day I have a chance to be more like Jesus. Thank You for your grace, mercy, and forgiveness. Please forgive me of my sins that I may not be aware of and bring those into the light so that I can change. You created me and knew me way before I was even formed. The plans You have on my life is all for You, to glorify You, and give You thanks! Father God, I pray and ask for strength and patience in things that I cannot control. I pray for boldness and fearlessness in all that I do. I thank You for saving me, leaving the 99 to find the one. I just give You thanks today. I love You, Father! In Jesus’ name. Amen!
Day 14: Ordered Steps: Pray that you and your future husband would always be in full surrender to the Lord, allowing Him to order your steps. Pray that you wouldn’t try to jump ahead of His plans. Trust and believe God prepares you for the desires of your heart!
Scriptures: Proverbs 16:9, Isaiah 64:8, Psalm 37:23-24
Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you your heart’s desires.
Father God, I just want to thank you for connecting me with a group of women during this fast and for all the ladies that have shared. This fast has been very eye-opening in terms that marriage is a commitment and covenant to You and my future husband. It is a relationship between three people; You, myself and my future husband. Father God, I pray that my future husband and I will obey and surrender to You. I pray that You lead us every step of the way and that Your will, will be done in our lives and we will not jump ahead of Your plans. I fully trust and believe in you, Lord, that you will bless me with the desires of my heart! Thank you, Jesus! In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen!
Activation: Ask God what this season looks like for you. Ask Him if you are ready to date.
God is telling me that I need to be single in this season and that I am not quite ready to date. I still have a lot of healing to do from my recent relationship. I need to focus on some of my goals and just loving me. God knows that there’s so much more for me to do as a single and that I do not need to rush getting into a relationship. Even when I feel like I am getting “old”, I have so much faith that God will give me everything I want in a husband when the time is right. I don’t want to settle for anything less than what God wants for me.
Day 13: Self-value and worth: Pray that you’ll always see yourself through the same lens Jesus does towards you. Pray that you will agree with every truth He has spoken over you and how He’s created you to be.
Scriptures: Mark 4:20, 1 Peter 3:3-4, Genesis 1:26, Psalm 139:14
You are altogether beautiful, my darling,
beautiful in every way.
-Song of Solomon 4:7
Father God, thank you for creating me exactly the way that I am. I was made in the image and likeness of You, Father God. I pray that I will always see myself through the same lens as Jesus does. I pray that I will agree and speak the truth on myself of how You created me to be. Father, even on those days I feel worthless and ugly, please let me remember that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Thank you, Jesus! In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen!
Activation: Choose 3 personality traits you love about yourself!
I love that I am funny, adventurous, and loving. These are strengths because people love to laugh, adventurous makes you fun, and loving makes you a good person.
Day 12: Sexual Purity: Pray that God would be honored in every part of your future relationship (courtship and marriage) and that the Lord would reveal to you personally His purpose for sex. Pray that if there are any struggles now or in the future with sexism purity that Jesus would uproot them and fill you with His love and grace.
Scriptures: Galatians 5:16-17, Matthew 5:8, 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8
God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. 1 Thessalonians 4:3
Ok y’all! Let me get real here! SEX!!! Sex feels good and it can be so fun! It can be satisfying for the moment and when the flesh wants what it wants, it’s kind of hard to hold back sometimes. Honestly, this topic should be saved for a later time. So let me just pray real quick!
Father God, I just want to thank you for creating such a beautiful thing such as sex between a husband and wife! I thank you for being a part in my dating life so that I and whoever is the one for me will honor you through our dating/courtship. I pray that even when I do get married that my husband and I will honor You in our relationship always. Father God, I pray that my future husband and I will get revelation from You about what sex’s purpose is in a marriage. Father God, I am praying for you to uproot any thoughts of sexual sin, sexual soul-ties and struggles that I or my future husband have of lust, sex, pornography, and anything of that sinful nature. I pray that we just die to our flesh every day. I pray that we have accountability partners and we pray for those accountability partners to have a heart to listen and be there for us to give us wise counsel. I pray those friends or mentors just lead us to You and that they pray for our struggles when we find it so hard to say no to our flesh. Father God, I pray that we just surround ourselves with other believers who are wanting to stay pure and that we hold eachother accountable. Holy Spirit, fill us up with Your love and grace when we are lonely at night and that You are enough to fill us in all those areas. In Jesus’ name I pray! Amen!
Activation: What does your purity plan look like once you start dating? Who holds you accountable to your sexual purity? How far is “too far” when dating?
A year after I’ve been saved I got in my first Christian relationship and I really thought I had it all down, but I fell short. It was nothing like what I learned dating should be like as a born-again. I’ve learned so much from that relationship that I have a better understanding of what my purity plan will look like once I start dating again. I have accountability partners who will help me hold my sexual purity. Too far is too far when you know the Holy Spirit is telling you no or you’re even questioning if this is too far.
Day 11: Communication: Pray for healthy, honest and open communication between you and your future husband. Pray that needs and frustrations would be brought to light when they are still small and never used out of spite.
Scriptures: Proverbs 19:11, Proverbs 17:27
I used to be the worst communicator in my past relationships. I used to avoid conflict and keep things inside and never really solving anything. I became resentful, angry, and would just run away from situations or end relationships all together because I wouldn’t speak up about my needs or frustrations. I’ve definitely learned that COMMUNICATION is vital for every healthy relationship with parents, siblings, family members, friends, mentors, coworkers and strangers. I have been putting in work to communicate better with everyone. Sometimes it is not easy for me but in the end I feel like I’ve spoken up about my feelings and made an effort to understand them too.
Father God, I pray that you keep working on me in my communication. I pray that my husband and I’s communication is open, healthy, honest, transparent in our marriage. I pray that we never use words to hurt each other. I pray that we are led by the Holy Spirit when it comes to communicating. I pray that whatever needs and frustrations we have with each other or in life that it would be easy to come to each other and talk about it so we can work it out. Father God, give us a heart to listen and that we will never ever go to bed angry. Father God, I am really praying for strong communication between my husband and I because I know that it’s the key to a long lasting marriage.
But now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language. Colossians 3:8
Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. James 1:19-20
Activation: Do something that puts yourself first today, whether it be resting at home or rearranging your day to fit in what you’d like to do.
Today I am serving at my church for Love Weekend. I usually put myself first every day since I am single and have no kids, so serving makes me feel like I’m giving back to the community and helping out where I can.
Day 10: Generosity: Pray for generosity to be the norm in your future marriage. Whether it be financially, with time, resources or going the extra mile with your spouse as well as those around you. Pray that generosity would come from a heart of compassion and never self-seeking.
Scriptures: Luke 16:13, Luke 12:31-34, Proverbs 3:9
You must each decide in your heart how much to give. And don’t give reluctantly or in response to pressure. For God loves a person who gives cheerfully. 2 Corinthians 9:7
Thank you, Father God, for already giving me a heart of generosity, but I want to be more giving. I want to be intentional with my finances, time and resources to be able to give to my future husband, children, family, and anyone who is in more need. I pray that my future husband has the same spirit of generosity and that he will give me, our children, our family, and everyone else with what he can because he has a heart of compassion. I pray that he thinks of others. I pray that we both give because we want to and our heart is to be more Christ-like. I pray that our home is going to be a house of generosity and servanthood.
Activation: Choose 3 physical traits you love about yourself!
The 3 physical traits that I love about myself would be my eyes, my smile, and my legs.
Day 9: Spiritual Legacy: Pray for a shift in any generational curses in your family to be turned into generational blessings! Pray for the spiritual legacy you’d like to leave for the next generations to come.
Scriptures: Galatians 6:6-10, Deuteronomy 30:19-20
What I am saying, dear brothers and sisters, is that our physical bodies cannot inherit the Kingdom of God. These dying bodies cannot inherit what will last forever. 1 Corinthians 15:50
Thank you, Father God, for blessing me with the family I have and grew up with and even though we are far from perfect, my family is full of love. My family has taught me love, support, acceptance, and generosity. I am super grateful for growing up with my sister and all my cousins, aunties and uncles. Father God, I don’t know if we have any big generational curses, but I just want to pray that they get to know You more and seek You. I know that they know of You because we all grew up Catholic, but I want them to know Your love for them is so much greater. I pray that they live more spiritually instead of more of this world. I pray that they are just blessed in their lives and that we continue to love and support each other in our lives. I pray that they think about the value they can add to this life more than what they can get from material things. Father God, thank you for your grace and mercy upon us all and I just pray for my family that they will pass down the values and morals of what they know of You, Father God, to their own children.
Activation: List some generational blessings you’d like to leave for generations after you from your future marriage.
I definitely want to leave legacy blessings for my future children, like knowing God, financial blessings, heart to serve, love, generosity, and all the fruits of the Spirit.
Day 8: Prepare us to receive love in a healthy way: Pray that the Lord would give us revelation and understanding of what it means to receive love in a healthy way. Pray that we would first know God’s love for us in our spirit man and then we’d be able to demonstrate that to our future husband.
Scriptures: 1 John 4:7-19, Ephesians 2:10
Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. Ephesians 3:17-18
Oh, Father God, I know you love me and I know you love my future husband too. I know it can be sometimes tough and confusing for me to differentiate what healthy love looks like from another person. I know that I might’ve not seen healthy relationships growing up or I’ve been in really bad relationships. Father God, I’m praying for revelation, wisdom, discernment, and understanding of what true human love relationships should look like that is of You! I want a loving relationship that You would only approve as a loving Father, who only wants the best for me. I know my worth and value because of You, and I pray that my future husband sees the same. I am Your daughter, Father God, and my future husband will love and treat me with the highest standards because he has You in him! Thank you, Jesus, for helping me learn how to really love. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen!
Activation: What are some of your favorite restaurants you love to eat at near you? Let’s just have this as a reminder to ourselves when we start dating, and you get the infamous question… “Where do you want to eat?” LOL
I haven’t eaten meat for 7 months now, but during this fast, I’ve been craving chicken wings! I want to have a fried chicken wing day! I also love pizza and Vietnamese food! Oh and ICE CREAM!
Day 7: Responsibilities of Husband and Wife: Pray you and your future husband will walk fully in the purposes and responsibilities God has ordained for each of you in your future covenant.
Scriptures: Proverbs 31, Ephesians 5:22-33, 1 Peter 3:1-7
I don’t know what it is, but I love to read about the roles and responsibilities of a husband and wife. I want to be that woman of God, that Godly wife and that Godly mother. I love the guidance it provides to live a Holy life for God and the blessings that come forth by obedience in Him.
Father God, I thank You for saving me from the life I had before. I thank You for giving us Your One and Only Son so that we can be forgiven of our sins. Thank You for giving us the choice to live our lives in hopes that we choose Your standards. Father God, I pray that my future husband will walk fully in the purposes and responsibilities you have given him. I pray that everything he is doing is all for Your glory and that it is fitting for the Kingdom and our future covenant. I pray that my future husband is seeking You every day and that he is growing with You. I pray that his desire is to become a man of God, Godly husband, and Godly father. Thank you, Father God! I pray for myself and that I just continue to be hungry and thirsty for You so I can live in the house of the Lord forever! In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen!
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly. Colossians 3:18-19
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10-12
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. Ephesians 5:25-26
You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They put their trust in God and accepted the authority of their husbands. 1 Peter 3:4-5
Activation: Ask God what you bring to the table as a future wife. Ask Him what He’s currently working on in you.
God knows I have a lot to offer as a future wife. I have a lot of good traits! I am financially responsible, I can cook and clean, I am smart, hardworking, loving, nurturing, caring, generous, a servant-heart, I love God, family oriented, fun, funny, traveler, and many more too many to list =) But what I do know, He’s currently working on in me is my communication skills. I tend to keep everything inside or hold back and God’s been giving me a voice to speak out my standards and expectations. I no longer want to compromise my standards when it comes to a potential partner. God is giving me the values, and vision of what I expect from my future husband and whom I have to become as a woman. I will not be settling for anything anymore, so I am communicating things right away and just becoming a better communicator in all areas of my life. Thank you, Jesus!
Day 6: Healing from the Past: Pray for complete healing from past relationships and complete severing of any soul ties that need to be broken. Pray no residue of those relationships would enter yours.
Scriptures: Luke 17:3-4, Romans 12:9-21, 1 Peter 5:6-9, Colossians 3:12-17
Bless those who persecute you. Don’t curse them; pray that God will bless them. Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with each other. Don’t be too proud to enjoy the company of ordinary people. And don’t think you know it all! Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone. Romans 12:14-18
Father God, you know exactly where I need healing, so I ask you and I’m praying for healing for my future husband and myself to be healed from past relationships and to cease all soul-ties and heart-ties. I pray that no residue of these past relationships will enter into our future marriage. Father God, I pray for those past boyfriends and girlfriends and I bless them; I pray that both parties are healed and that our lives are blessed. I ask for forgiveness for any hurtful words spoken, any sins we committed, or just anything that didn’t honor you, Father God. I pray for 100% healing from any thoughts of the past that still lingers in our hearts and thoughts. Thank you, Father God, for your love, grace, and mercy!
Activation: Ask a married couple for words of wisdom for a healthy marriage!
Ashley Keller‘s words of wisdom for a healthy marriage:
So one of the things I’ve learned from marriage is communicating even when you don’t feel like it. Sometimes I have had to push past how I felt in order to communicate with my husband. It’s not always easy to do but you feel so much better when you do it. But I’ve also learned the more you work on communication the easier it can get. And with being married you have to learn how does my mate communicate? You learn how to say things in a way that they can understand and also receive what you are saying to them. But also remembering to say things in love. Because if we say things in a way that tears our husbands down it doesn’t make them feel good or want to share. But when we say things in love it allows them to want to share and also helps them feel like we care about them by the way we communicate with them. Sometimes you may have to pray before conversations or even ask the Holy Spirit to lead the conversations you guys have so that Jesus will be at the center of the conversations. But communication is not just on us but it’s a two-way thing. And even if you need a moment before you want to say something it’s ok to say “I would like to take some time to myself to think and then come back to the conversation “ but don’t wait too long lol. And while you’re single treat your relationship with the lord as a marriage. Communicate everything thing to Him. And once we learn communication with the Lord we bring it right over into our marriage with our husband. And start praying now that if this is not your strong point that God would help you in this area and also pray in this area for your husband.
Day 5: Words of Life: Pray that only life is spoken over you and your future husband, currently and in the future. Pray that you would commit to speaking life in every situation and area of your life. With God, there’s no hopeless situation, let’s always aim to be one’s that come into agreement with it by our words!
I love this scripture. “Kind words are like honey— sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” (Proverbs 16:24) There are lots of scriptures in the Bible that talk about the tongue and that our words have so much life that it can literally be life or death. Before being saved I used to struggle with being negative, complaining, judgemental, gossip and mean all the time. You can tell I was just unhappy back then. What I’ve learned is that our voice and the words we use has so much power and position in our lives and other people’s lives. I’m growing with the help of the Holy Spirit to use uplifting, encouraging, and positive words of life wherever I go.
Father God, I thank you for giving me a voice of power that I can use to uplift, encourage and speak life over myself and others. I pray that my husband is doing the same with his words and that he speaks life and not death over himself and the people around him. Father God, I pray that my future husband and I only speak words of life to each other in our marriage and to our children. I pray that we both speak life around unbelievers so they can see Christ in us! Help us to cut down on foul and abusive language and just help us to honor you by the words we speak. In Jesus’ name. Amen!
Activation: Stand in front of the mirror and bless every part of your body you dislike/often complain or self-criticize. Thank God for that particular part of your body!
I actually stood in front of my mirror and thanked and blessed parts of my body that I often complain about and I felt a warmness of perfection of how God made me. I am healthy! I have all my limbs and I don’t struggle anywhere physically (except reaching for things in high places haha jk) and I thanked God for my ability to walk, run, write and just being me. I don’t look like an Instagram model, but I love my body and every imperfection. Thank you, Jesus!
Live wisely among those who are not believers, and make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone. Colossians 4:5-6
The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. Proverbs 18:21
Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:29-32
Day 4: Deliverance from evil and deception: Pray that you and your future husband are not under any deception, big or small in your life and future. Deception can even come in the form of an old wives tale or a saying passed down from a parent in love but is not rooted in Truth (i.e. people will never change). Pray that the Lord would deliver you from evil that has tried to come against you in any form, known and unknown.
The enemy loves to kill, steal and destroy. Soul-ties is what’s on my heart this morning and all they do is kill, steal and destroy what God has for you. I am definitely speaking from experience and especially from recent experience. I am a new Christian and I just got out of my ”first saved Christian relationship.” Before I had met him, I really thought I had it all down and figured out; I didn’t want to be the same girl going into relationships with no purpose, values, vision and definitely without God. But the Spirit is willing and the flesh is weak, so I felt short. We were both saved and loved God but we weren’t honoring God in the relationship because we were sinning. I didn’t have joy, I wasn’t fellowshipping with God, lying to my accountability partners and just in a mess with myself. Now that the relationship is over, I have joy and freedom again because I am obeying God. Even though there’s no condemnation with Christ Jesus, I no longer feel condemnation. But to be honest, the flesh is weak and I still think about him and those fun times we had together. The enemy is really trying to test me because this ex is trying to come back to me, but I know God got me and he won’t leave me astray. All I know is that I want more for my future marriage. I want my marriage to be blessed beyond anything I could have ever imagine and I know what it’s going to take to have that.
Father God, I am praying for deliverance of all soul-ties that the enemy is using against my future husband and me. I pray that we are not deceived by any lies of the enemy from the past, present, and future. I pray that no weapon formed against him and me will prosper. Father God, I thank you for the blood of Jesus that protects us. I rebuke all forms of the enemy that tries to steal, kill and destroy. Thank you, Father God, for your Word and your Truth over our lives. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen!
Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Romans 12:9
My steps have stayed on your path; I have not wavered from following you. I am praying to you because I know you will answer, O God. Bend down and listen as I pray. Show me your unfailing love in wonderful ways. By your mighty power you rescue those who seek refuge from their enemies. Guard me as you would guard your own eyes. Hide me in the shadow of your wings. Protect me from wicked people who attack me, from murderous enemies who surround me. Psalms 17:5-9
Then call on me when you are in trouble, and I will rescue you, and you will give me glory. Psalms 50:15
Let all that I am praise the Lord; with my whole heart, I will praise his holy name. Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things he does for me. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases. He redeems me from death and crowns me with love and tender mercies. He fills my life with good things. My youth is renewed like the eagle’s! Psalms 103:1-5
Activation: Listen to a prophetic word you’ve received in the past. Note what stands out to you, particularly in this season.
This prophetic word is from when I visited Bethel and it came from my friend Joy’s friend Savannah. This is what stood out to me after listening to it again.
I am a warrior! I’m a strong woman, determined, passionate, fearless and resilient. Don’t pick a fight with Justine on earth or in the spirit realm because she has a lot of authority. If anything comes against me, I have a voice and I can commission the angels to fight the battle. My voice is meant to influence cities. Because I’m Faithful in one door another door will open for me and another door and another. I have favor with God, but also with man because I have humility in my heart.